The "expert" in you.

Vow-writing inquiry of the day:

In the context of your relationship, what is your partner an "expert" in?

Exercise:

Ask your fiance to tell you something of value that he feels he's learned from you.  Then ask, how it is that you demonstrate this value in your life together, and what it is that motivated or inspired him to learned it from you.

Then switch roles. 

The results of this inquiry will offer you several things:

1.  You will feel appreciated and learn more about your significance in your partner's life.

2.  You will garner an understanding of how you are, and can continue to be, a teacher in your partner's life.

3.  You will garner an understanding of what motivates or inspires your partner to want to learn from you.

4.  You will gain insight into how you learn from your partner.

5.  Knowing that you have great substance to offer your partnership can inspire you to continue to offer up the best of yourself and serve your marriage well.

Write down what you said and what you heard.  All of the information that arises from this exercise provides great material for writing personal vows or a love letter to your partner.  In addition to making "promises" in your ceremony, you can also include words about your "appreciation" for each other.

Comments

[Elizabeth]

Your blog rocks! My friends and I think you are the "Monique Lhuillier of Ceremonies." Very stylish. Very classy. Thanks for all the great ideas.