Flower Power.

Sweet Peas, painted by Georgia O'Keefe.

Lead with your flowers.  Huh?  Lead with your flowers.  Which kind of flowers have you chosen for your bouquet?  Sweet peas, for example, are said to represent "delicate pleasures."  As a means of customizing your wedding ceremony, begin by considering your favorite "delicate pleasures."  What are yours?  What are the delicate pleasures of your fiance?  Which do you share?  Bet you never asked each other this question before.

Zoe and David asked themselves this very question and discovered that they both have this thing for a specific kind of Swiss chocolate.  So, they decided to import a box of it for use in their wedding ceremony.  After reciting their vows and exchanging their rings, they fed each other a bite of their favorite "delicate pleasure" -- a stamp of personalization on their ceremony that came out of investigating the meaning of the sweet peas Zoe wanted to carry down the aisle.

Lead with your flowers.  Learn something new about your partner's taste and priorities.  Incorporate the answers into your ceremony to make it that much more your own.