Engage Your Guests!

I became a ceremony writer and officiant, in part, after sitting at one too many weddings observing people looking at their watches and wondering when dinner would be served. The problem is that guests are frequently invited to be passive witnesses at a ceremony that has nothing to do with them personally.  The remedy is to engage your guests in your ceremony by involving them in it.  Give them something to do.  Let them know their presence matters.  Here's one way:

Just before you say your vows, have your bridesmaids carry baskets of flower petals to the guests, asking each guest to take a handful. The officiant then guides your guests through holding their petals next to their heart while making a silent wish for the bride and groom.  After a pause of silence for wish making, the officiant instructs the guests to come sprinkle the flower petals in a circle around the feet of the marrying couple.  The guests then return to their seats. And you are swimming in the good wishes of all your guests just as you approach the most important part of your ceremony:  your vows and ring exchange.  This is a beautiful and incredibly moving ritual for everyone present. It's also great for photos.  I know.  I've been there many times.

Enjoy!