Are You A Worthy Partner?

"A soul -- our own I, our individuality -- must, paradoxically, be earned before it can be bestowed. It is up to us to build our cathedral, to become a worthy vessel, before the spark can safely become a living fire, transforming every cell of the body into an instrument for the individual expression of the divine here on earth."  ~ Martha Heyneman, from the Fall 2005 issue of PARABOLA

How have you prepared your individual self for marriage?  Are you a worthy vessel in your own right for life's expression ?  Or perhaps there are ways in which you are hoping your mate will "complete you" and make you that worthy vessel. 

Contrary to popular thought -- or cinematic influences as the case may be, ie: Tom Cruise in the 1996 film "Jerry McGuire" -- if you are counting on your mate to "complete you," you are setting yourself up for trouble.

There's a fine line between having a partner support you in being or becoming your own person and counting on that person to deliver the spark for you.  Check in with your truth. Own it before your wedding day. 

Here's a question that can help.  Include your answer in your vows.

How do I intend to conduct myself in my marriage that will make me worthy of my partner?

Comments

[. Tracy]

I love that concept of being a "vessel" for marriage. Hmmmm, sounds like content for a new post around here. Thanks for the post Jena. :) Tracy, FreshBride author

[jena]

I agree. A person already has to be 'complete' before getting into marriage, or any relationship for that matter. That should already make you such a 'worthy vessel'.